HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Dear Friends:

All Relationships in your life must be healthy such as friendships, co-workers, employers, spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends and your relationship with your children.

I often hear you make statements like, he won't let me do that, he wants me at home when he's gone, he doesn't like my friends to come over, he doesn't like me talking on the phone, he makes me call him several times a day and so forth and so on. Does this sound familiar to you? It's "control". It's not healthy. Every relationship must have trust in order for it to blossom. The initial onset of this type of behavior should be observed through a keen eye. Girl, you have to let him/her know that you will not tolerate being controlled. You can't just say it. You have to take action. Partners like this won't leave. You have to leave. Open that door, close it behind you and Run. Run and never look back. Stop being a Slave to Love. Don't mistake his abusive behavior for love. A Partner that loves you will never hurt you.

Your Partner's Abuse has become a pattern of destructive behaviors that are used to manipulate and push his power and control over you. Don't date violence. Listen to me, I am telling you that you are Worthy, Beautiful, Intelligent, a great friend and a fantastic mom. You are a Goddess! A Daughter of a KIng! A Rare Gem! Your Partner will never change so stop waiting for him to. Stop feeding this power. Leave his ass. I heard him yelling at you when we were on the phone last night when you asked me to hold on the line. Once again his way of demanding your attention. I thought he wanted to speak with you until I heard your muffle cries.

BTW, The last time that I saw you, I noticed you looked disheveled. Your eyes were a blank shell but I could see your pain. You attire was different now clothed in long clothing to hide the bruises. But, I caught a glimpse of them. I wanted to tell you not to Stop caring about you. However, I didn't because I thought, it's not the right time,

Instead, I wrote the Warning Signs to Look for in an abusive relationship. I planned to give it to you this morning.

Look for the Warning Signs ... know when the behavior crosses the line from Healthy to Unhealthy Relationship: Looking through your cell phone or email without permission; Always putting you down ; Shows extreme jealousy or insecurity towards friends, family, co-workers. Basically, anyone in your circle ; Explosive temper tantrums ; Isolates you from family or friends; Constantly making false accusations; Mood swings; Physically hurting you in any way, apologizes just to do it all over again; Possessiveness ; Telling you what to do, wear or think ; Repeatedly pressuring you to have sex and/or animalistic torturing sex. Finally, I wanted to tell you to Break free from the Chains that are around your heart. I know that a controlled women is never happy because she lives in fear. Don't live in Fear. Break Free.

To my surprise, I woke up this morning and checked my voicemail. You said, you were leaving him and that you were on your way to Safety, I put on a pot of coffee and turned on the News. Too late, the final act of his physical abuse. RIP you are free from the Chains That Were Around Your Heart.

Don't lose a Friend or Love one to Abuse. Encourage them to get Help. If this is You, please leave Today there may not be Tomorrow.

Every Women is a Goddess. Goddess this is for you.

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