PARENTS WAKE UP. WE ARE RAISING AND CREATING KILLERS
- Diedra Wayans
- Oct 1, 2015
- 4 min read
I am writing this Blog to educate the Public in hopes that we as Parents make the Choice to Make a Change in the way that we are upbringing Our Children. Our Children of this generation are the most violent. Parents beware, we are raising and creating killers. Parents, need to take accountability that we are not proactive enough in saving our children. We must face what is missing!
Growing up in the Wayans household, my father was very religious. Religious to a Fault. As an adult, after all my trials and errors. After a journey of madness. A teenage that had nothing but Rage inside her. The Rage did not come from what happened inside my home . It came from what I experienced in the STREETS, in RELATIONSHIPS and in BETRAYALS against me and my INNOCENSE. Early in our Childhoods, Our Child must be taught morals, values and consequences for negative behavior. Most important, they must see Us, their Parents as role models of what they say don't do. We can't drink like a fish then tell Our Children not to Drink. We can't have Rage and talk about shooting someone as the answer then tell Our Children, no Guns.
In Our Generation, Yes, we were spanked depending on each situation and how serious it was. We had bible studies twice a week. We sat down and ate our meals together. We had recreational activities. We had God in our schools. We had Mentors. We had Sports. We had games that we played outside like hop scotch, tag, jump rope, jaxs, pickup sticks to name a few. We had Neighbors that cared and shared. We didn't have Cell Phone, Video Games (teaching us how to kill and demoralizing us), Computers, nor Social Media and we weren't able to watch much television. Our Generation barely survived the Gang Violence, the Police Brutality, Brutality Against Police, and the Many Terrorist Attacks .
My childhood memory was that Suppertime was the best! Our Family took this time together to share our adventures that we had went through for that day. It was our time to share that we had been bullied, or had a fight trying to defend ourself, or that the teacher was not treating us right, or that our school was giving a talent show and we wanted to be part of it, or that one of our friends got hurt and we were concerned or that our sibling got in trouble in school. We all felt Important and that we were a part of something good "Family". We also clowned on each other and shared so much laughter at the table. Our Parents even joined in on it. We used our comedy as a form of expression. Comedy comes from Pain. And, with the good came the bad. We had chores and as the oldest female sibling, I cared for my younger siblings. Now, I appreciate my Parents. I appreciate all the Neighbors that would get me in trouble or discipline me when I was doing wrong and threaten to tell my parents. It does take a Village to Raise a Child.
I must admit that I resented them during the times of discipline because most my neighbors and friends were allowed to play outside, hang out late and just about do whatever they wanted. These children didn't have to come upstairs until it was time to prepare for school the next day, eat dinner and go to bed. Easy raising right? Wrong! Most of these Parents were working two jobs or partying with their friends or on drugs or it was a household of dysfunction where the Parents really didn't care. As I child, I didn't know that! I didn't know that I was Lucky!
PARENTS, I would like to share the Importance that Children, at an early age, need Us to implement values and principles conducive to a happy balanced lifestyle. We cannot leave Our Children out to dry up in Society by falling into the clutches of the Streets. Our Children can't learn communication, emotions or discipline by playing video games or on their Laptops and social media from the time they get out of school until they go to bed. Our Children have to be more Socialized. There are no emotions in the streets. Life in the streets are mean and cold. Last time I checked, I didn't See any Children outside playing in my neighborhood. But I understood why --Our Children walk around living in fear or Our Children are walking around instilling fear.
PARENTS, stand up! Let's Begin to Make Our Children Our Priority. Let's make Our Children Stand Accountable For Wrongdoing. For Every Wrong Action There Are Consequences. Let's Face Our Consequences by Stopping Our Generation of Killers by showing them love. Love is a Verb which is an Action not a Noun which is a Person, Place or Thing. I will Walk With You, if you would just walk with me. One Step at a Time.
