BROKEN FAMILY BEFORE THE BIRTH OF YOUR CHILD

While walking in my Stilettos, I couldn't always hold my balance. Several times, I tripped along the journey of being a Single Mom. Now, I stand proud with my head held high thinking about my trials that I had to overcome. I had a Broken Family before my child was even born. I remember, He promised to love me, stay committed to me, and raise our child together. Instead, he forced me to be a Single Mom by his non-commitment, infidelities, irresponsibleness, lack of parenting participation and no financial support. But, High Five Ladies, I still came out on top and with six successful children. I'm the first to state, it was not easy!

I started off as a Single Mom at the age of 16, not quite ready to be a parent and I had big fears of being a failure. I promised myself that if I got through the journey of single parenting that I would not have another child until I was married.

Single Parenting is a challenge but it can be quite rewarding. You have to apply yourself and stay focus, even if you're not ready. I wasn't ready. And, I damn sure wasn't encouraged. I grew up in the projects, a quite tight community but females will be females. I received a lot of hate by the other females my age, instead of support. I thought about suicide many times during the bullying, trashing and bashing stages of my pregnancy. I couldn't understand why everyone was mad at me because I was pregnant. I knew that half of those same females sitting on bench snickering and whispering about me, had just left the abortion clinic. They didn't know me or my circumstances surrounding my pregnancy and I didn't feel like I had to share. I was going through enough stress just being a teenager and learning how to be an adult. I knew they were gossipers. The entire project found out before I got half way through my pregnancy. In retrospect, it was very painful and lonely. No one knew how much it crushed me when I found out I was pregnant.. I had to make a quick decision birth, abortion or adoption. I chose Birth, to stand firm and take the Challenge! To finally have someone love me unconditionally. The biggest return and the best feeling in the Word.

Although, I was a child, raising a child, it's an experience that even if I could, I wouldn't take it back. All my memories of this journey has made me the woman that I am today, I made so many mistakes along the way. But I stayed true to being a Single Mom. I shared every part of this journey with my children. I stand on truth so I shared the truth. I jostled, shoplifted, drank, smoke, partied like a Rock Star, visited all the hottest clubs, short visits to jail for making dumb choices, but never neglected my child. Believe it or not, I dated the Club owner just so I could take him to the club with me. Silly girl, so immature but smart enough to learn from all my mistakes.

My point is that although I was messed up as a young adult, I cleaned up my mess along my journey of taking on All of the challenges that came with raising a child out of wedlock, being so young, naive and adventurous. Here's the Confession, I wasn't ready to give up being a child myself so I incorporated it into my parenting. A child raising a child.

At the age of 16, I was forced to wear my first pair of Stilettos while tripping through the streets of New York, in the borough of Manhattan, Fulton Projects. I CHALLENGE All Single Moms to pick out your very own pair of sturdy Stilettos for your walk through your journey of Motherhood. You won't always be Single. Your home won't always be broken unless you let it. At the right time, God will send someone just for you. A Broken Family can always be mended as long as you remember what "Family" is. Family is a group consisting of parent(s) living together in a household.

You can do it, I did! I'm now, a Single Mom, I had a failed marriage and now I'm happily married for 23 years. I stayed connected, stayed informed and I stuck to my guns. There was no dress rehearsal. I had one chance to get it right. Now, I'm Rooting For You.

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